5 Habits of Social Attraction From My Extroverted Friend

It all starts on a rooftop bar in Portugal… 

I recently met up with a friend while solo-traveling through Europe. 

We’re both from the great land of America, where many of its inhabitants live inside a screen 24/7. 

Long story short…

We got to talking about our social lives. 

And that’s when he showed me something wild. 

Bro pulled out his WhatsApp — 

Nothing but hot dates and party invites. 

It was incredible. 

Like Wilt Chamberlain numbers.

So naturally, I asked him if he was a recipient of the Portuguese lottery. 

Nope. 

Turns out, he’s just smooth. 

So after milking his mind for a few hours, here’s what I learned…

# 1 | going to social places 

Unfortunately, beautiful women and best friends don’t fall out of the sky. 

Going outside is required. 

And I know. 

Netflix and your favorite pint of Ben & Jerrys sounds pretty seductive. 

But it’s time to reset your habits. 

My extroverted friend gave me an life-changing tip on this: 

Google Pins. 

How? 

1. Place pins in locations that intrigue you
2. Explore them on the weekend

It could be scenic hikes, new cafes to write from, or classy wine bars. 

Boom. 

Your chances of meeting someone special just exploded. 

Okay…

But what if you’re introverted AF and can’t start a conversation? 

Group activities. 

These are low-stress environments where people are ALREADY looking to make friends. 

All you have to do is show up. 

• Latin dance classes
• Language exchanges or classes
• MMA / run clubs  
• Meetup (social or hiking groups)

This is a lot of sauce. 

Use it wisely. 

# 2 | removing limitations 

You’ve heard me say it before so I’ll keep it short. 

Just talk. 

Worst case she’s not feeling you. 

Maybe you laugh now and cry later?

But best case?

You end up with the LOYL. 

I’d take those chances. 

The surefire way to make connections is to keep sending requests. 

No different than job applications, marketing, or social media. 

So get into the habit of talking to everyone. 

Doesn’t matter if they’re green or purple. 

Once you’re in that mode — move on to the next step. 

# 3 | reception

In order to maximize your social success rate…

Glow up your presentation. 

Think about it: 

Would you rather talk to a chill gentleman while waiting for your flight? 

OR 

An unpredictable stranger geeking out in public?  

My extroverted friend coined this as “social reception.”

It comes down to:

• Appearance (physique + style + grooming) 
• Confidence (aura) 
• Environment 

And before the excuses start to pile up — 

These are all modifiable qualities. 

There’s NOTHING stopping you from elevating in each area.

So keep working towards your potential. 

# 4 | social skills 

Even if you’re mentally having an aneurysm…

You can still project confidence using social skills.

Believe it or not…

Masterful conversation isn’t about yapping. 

It’s 100% body language.

Download these:

• Maintain eye contact 
• Look at them while they speak
• Slightly tilt head and nod
• Genuine smile 

Congratulations, you’re now a better conversationalist than 80% of the world.

Here’s a bonus cheat code:

Smile BEFORE initiation. 

This is a “How to Make Friends and Influence People” essential.

It signals that you come in peace.

And makes your partner more receptive to your presence. 

# 5 | crash course 

Some places are easier to socialize than others. 

Hostels being my personal favorite. 

I’ve made friends with everyone from surfer dudes to rich tech bros.

Not to mention women who could kizomba for real.

How? 

At hostels, loads of people are solo-traveling and actively looking for adventure mates. 

So if you need a crash course on social attraction…

Book your next travels at a hostel instead of a boring hotel chain. 

Step out the continental comfort zone, and socialize your way into a new life.