8 steps to get your sh** together
A few years ago, I found myself abruptly fired from my dream job.
Within a few months, I blew through my cash deposits and landed in my childhood bedroom at the ripe age of 25.
So 12:41AM — here I am.
Laying on a squeaky twin mattress.
Broke, skinny fat, and addicted to POV corn.
Needless to say…
The woman whom I was obsessed with soon stopped replying to my texts.
Of course, this was my fault.
My life at the time was the bare minimum.
Hit snooze, eat trash, and watch mindless YouTube to cope with my shortcomings.
I learned the hard way — nobody wants that guy.
So I decided to get my sh*t together.
It worked.
Life is different now —
Old flames get left on read.
Look guys…
Maybe there is a more wholesome way to fix yourself.
It just never worked for me.
This is what did.
# 1 | HOT BODY
Instead of feeling sad and neglected bro…
Hit the gym.
It doesn’t matter if you’re green or purple —
This is the single action that increases your demand from unknown artist to Pablo Picasso.
We’re talking pennies to a few hundred million.
How?
- Women are attracted to an aesthetic visual (just like us)
- Dating apps are leveraged
This means if you post one impeccable profile…
You overshadow 80–90% of men and collect all of the options.
Goodbye lonely nights.
It’s easier than you think.
The bar is really low nowadays.
Most men these days choose Fortnight over personal growth.
Ditch that cohort.
Do this:
- Lift 3–4x/week
- Eat 0.9–1.0g protein per pound
- Progressive overload
Become the man she actually wants.
# 2 | DIFFERENT DIET
I recently joined a friend at Chill's for lunch (his choice).
I wasn’t expecting grass-fed organic nutrition or anything…
But I was shook.
Scores of men consuming 3000 deep-fried calories like it was light work.
Yikes.
Ikaria, Greece sends their disapproval.
Again, the bar is set incredibly low.
Just eat clean.
- Cook at home
- Skip the processed sh*t
- Cut the sugar
It’s time to unveil your six pack sir.
# 3 | FINANCIAL FREEDOM
After building the body of your dreams…
This is priority number II.
Financial freedom opens up doors you can’t imagine:
Dates with Spanish women in French arrondissements.
Japanese dinners with Italian wines.
Don’t get me wrong — money isn’t a prerequisite for attraction.
But I also don’t miss stressing about $35 overdraft fees.
Or the tip screen.
So find your passion & build it out.
# 4 | MEDITATE
No matter how motivated you are…
Getting your sh*t together is blue chew hard without a calm mind.
There will be tough decisions, distractions, and discomfort.
So…
Meditate daily.
Personally, I do first person visualization.
This is where you imagine yourself in scenarios with dangerously high levels of confidence.
Essentially — be James Bond for 10 minutes a day.
Now why is this important for attraction?
Without a calm mind…
You will overreact and fail her tests.
RIP aura.
# 5 | SOCIAL TIMING
Most guys spend their evenings inside their bat lairs and then do the surprised Pikachu when they see no action.
Like bro…
Do you really think beautiful women just fall out of the sky?
It’s sad because it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy:
Step 1: Click internet ragebait
Step 2: Develop low self-confidence
Step 3: Cry
Throw the phone away and get outside.
Learn how to dance salsa, frequent coffee shops, join a run club…
Whatever you’ve wanted to do.
The ocean is deep.
# 6 | BOOK CLUB
Confession, I didn’t start reading until last year.
I know…
My definition of literature was scrolling motivational quotes and think I was doing something.
It doesn’t work.
Books focus on a single topic and repeat key concepts.
This is essential for learning.
You don’t have to go Jeff Bezos either —
Just read one personal development book a month.
Rewards compound.
# 7 | BODY IQ
Attraction is never really about what you say.
It’s how you say it.
This is the enigmatic confidence that drive women crazy (in a good way).
So what does it look like?
External confidence is a set of behaviors that indicate high or low status:
- Holding eye contact vs. aborting the mission
- Straight posture vs. tech neck
- Low tone of voice vs. helium king
There’s more, but these make up the majority of the language game.
Practice with every interaction so you’re ready when it’s showtime.
# 8 | WAIT!
We’ll be old AF one day.
So why NOT achieve the highest version of ourselves?
I mean…
Do you always want to be pleading on your knees for a date?
Or finally have your sh*t together?
Sure, the power of attraction doesn’t develop overnight.
But I prefer a quality cup over Great Value instant.
The choice is yours.
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