How to start your attractive arc for guys (no bs guide)
It’s not the 1970s anymore.
You can’t be average and pray for a quality partner.
Modern romance has changed —
And it’s going to take more than a cush office job to change your luck.
But no stress.
With the right habits, anyone can go from sideline gawker to star player.
Here’s how…
habit # 1 | lift weights
A hot body is universally attractive.
Once I became fit…
Options poured down like a summer rain.
So how do you join the club?
Hit the gym bro.
I dedicate myself to an “Arnold Split,” but the regimen is less important than your consistency.
Here are the essentials…
- Lift 3–4x/week
- Progressive overload
- Good form (slow and controlled)
Every few weeks, increase the weight or intensity of your workouts.
Here’s a tip from “Atomic Habits” by James Clear —
Make it fun.
Buy aesthetic fits, chat with the regulars…
It keeps you coming back for more.
habit # 2 | protein eats
Without a diet to support your fitness journey…
You’re leaving raw gains on the table.
Once you figure this out — progress speedruns.
- Protein 0.9–1.0g / pound
- No processed BS
- Caloric surplus or caloric deficit
Nutritious foods…
Eggs, egg whites, almonds, beans, chickpeas, quinoa, hummus, chicken, fish, greek yogurt, chia seeds
Is it “hard” to cook meals at home and skip the combo meal at Wendy’s?
Sure.
But that’s where you edge out the competition.
habit # 3 | skincare formula
One of the first things women notice is your skin.
It signals your health.
As someone who used to struggle with rather regular eruptions…
This is what finally worked:
- Mild cleanser
- Active ingredient
- SPF 30 mineral sunscreen
Sunscreen is KEY.
It keeps you from looking like a bag of wrinkles at 30.
Don’t forget your skincare habits…
7–10K steps (reduces cortisol)
Shower right after the gym
Don’t touch your face
Glow up.
habit # 4 | grooming
Grooming for men is not complicated.
But requires effort.
Here’s what to prioritize…
- Professional haircut (top-rated barber)
- Comb your beard
- Trim the unibrow
- Brush and floss (chew gum for bonus points)
- Light cologne spritz
Smell is STRONGLY tied to memory.
She’ll always remember the man with an essence.
Use this knowledge responsibility.
habit # 5 | dress dapper
The bar for style in the US is incredibly low.
Wearing joggers out in public would be considered a war crime in most countries.
But again — this is where you win.
I’ve gotten the best reception with a fitted “old money aesthetic.”
- Collared shirts
- Chino pants
- Watch (not with a screen)
- White or black shoes
Essentially…
Dress like a Harvard lawyer on vacation in Italy.
Use your garments to elevate your status.
habit # 6 | mindset change
Here’s the catch…
Being attractive doesn’t mean that runway models start chasing you down the street.
You still have to ask her out.
The benefit of being attractive is that you have a higher chance of acceptance.
Like applying for college.
But there’s no substitute for overcoming fears.
Here’s a mindset shift that helped me:
Life is temporary.
I just remind myself “I’m only here for a bit.”
Any discomfort or outcome is short-lived.
Shoot the ball.
Continue rest of your day.
habit # 7 | communication
Don’t worry about SAYING the right thing.
Women that are genuinely interested in you will reciprocate regardless.
Just blurt.
Now…
Your nonverbal communication is what signals high status.
- Stand up straight
- Open body language
- Hold eye contact
- Slight smurk & head tilt
Slow everything down and breathe.
She’ll know you’re that guy.
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