The 3 Most Underrated Social Skills

Conversate like a boss

It’s easy to forget…

80% of socialization has nothing to do with speaking. 

In other words — 

Social attraction isn’t about monologues. 

Non-verbal communication is everything. 

Master it, and you become magnetic AF. 

Here are the 3 social skills to take you there…

# 1 | TUNED IN  

Think about a time you were ENGAGED in conversation. 

What was your purpose? 

Most likely…

It was to share an experience, idea, or just vent. 

Why? 

People CRAVE feeling understood and validated.

Essentially…

Show that you’re actively listening — 

And your interactions instantly become more attractive.

Here are the tools:

• Summarize their thoughts 
• Ask relevant questions
• Occasional comments 

Don’t stress about the “what do I say?” 

Just listen. 

If you get bored mid-conversation…

Slowly steer the conversation to something you’re interested in. 

OR…

Put yourself in their shoes, and see life from their perspective. 

Don’t forget — 

Socialization is a two way street. 

If they’re constantly yapping about TPS reports…

Exit the chat. 

# 2 | SIGNALS

Who would you rather talk to? 

Someone who makes eye-contact and listens

VS.

Someone who nervously stares at the ground 

It’s obvious, right? 

People define desirable social qualities by one word — 

Charisma.

This is a prerequisite to the art of conversation. 

After a few months of solo traveling to highly sociable countries…

These are the principles I’ve gathered:

BODY LANGUAGE: 

• Strong eye contact (shows confidence)
• Head tilt (signals listening)
• Smile (lighthearted fun) 

SPEECH: 

• Speak less, ask more 
• Deeper voice 
• Slower rate 

Emphasis on body language, although the right tone of voice adds to a confident aura. 

DON’T: 

• Pretend to listen 
• Cross your arms / legs 

Apply these, and your communication skills reach new levels. 

# 3 | MYSTERY 

Mystery is how artists like The Weeknd build record-breaking hype.

Don’t kill it. 

Without mystery, you become a bore. 

Here’s what I do: 

• Inject playful humor  
• Short answers and reflect questions back 

For example — 

Q: What do you do for a living?

A: “I type words on the internet. What about you?”

No need for soliloquies.

Now…

This doesn’t mean answer every question with another question like you’re Andy. 

Rule of thumb — 

Talk less than the other person, but still add value. 

“What about awkward pauses?”

Don’t trip. 

Ask a deeper question, or compliment them. 

This could be about friends, family, or life goals. 

Otherwise…

If you sense the conversation is coming to an end…

Simply end the conversation.

No need to drag on non-reciprocated energy.