The 4 Standard Behaviors of Attractive Men

For most of my life, I was a nerdy bookworm whose talents consisted of bubbling multiple choice questions and ruining my eyesight.

My turning point was meeting my arch nemesis — Kevin. 

Kevin was a serial playboy who enjoyed hot dates every weekend while I stayed home burning candlelight. 

To his credit, he did make me ask: 

How were men not as “smart” as me enjoying better lives?

Clearly, I was doing SOMETHING wrong. 

Because we both ended up graduating together anyways. 

I guess straight As and reading books wasn’t it after all? 

So I went back to the drawing board, and edited my behaviors over the next couple years until I became desirable. 

Thanks to Kevin (and a touch of envy)…

I’m lit now. 

I can’t remember the last time I had a sad crank. 

And once I knew what I was doing — it was easy. 

Here are the 4 standard behaviors of attractive men…

RULE # 1 | IRON MAN

Men have the power to change their lives in a matter of months. 

It all starts in one place…

The gym. 

You get the king treatment once you’re aesthetic. 

Why? 

I’m sure there’s evolutionary reasons. 

But here’s what I noticed: 

The average man is out of shape and has little confidence. 

So they blend into the crowd.

Meanwhile, the top ~20% are flooded with options. 

So all you need to do is beat average, and you automatically stand out. 

If you’re new to the gym, here are the essentials:

1. Lift 3–4x week
2. Hit your proteins (0.9g — 1.0g per pound)
3. Progressive overload

Here’s a model routine: 

Day 1: Biceps, back, shoulders 

Day 2: REST DAY

Day 3: Chest, triceps, legs 

Day 4: REST DAY

REPEAT

Protein eats: 

Fish, eggs, cottage cheese, beans, legumes, greek yogurt, nuts, seeds 

Once you’re fit, eye contact hits as soon as you walk into the room. 

It’s pretty incredible. 

So if you drop the ball on everything else today, fine. 

But don’t skip the gym. 

It pays in dividends. 

RULE # 2 | GLASS SKIN 

Growing up with impeccably bad skin, I’ve had the pleasure of testing everything under the sun. 

If it comes in a tube or bottle — it’s seen my face. 

Guess what?

99% of products sold are total BS.

I actually didn’t get clear skin until I DITCHED the long routines.

So do yourself a favor and keep your regimen simple: 

1. Cleanser (AM + PM) 
2. Sunscreen (I use mineral SPF 30) 

Keeps everything smooth and wrinkle resistant. 

I’ll dabble in snail muscin sometimes for hydration too.

Otherwise…

If your skin is constantly breaking out, consider the big 3: 

• Am I drinking enough water? 
• Am I eating clean? 
• Does my skin do better in certain climates? 

Find the right formula, and time takes care of the rest. 

RULE # 3 | THREADS  

I’ve touched at least a dozen countries by now. 

Americans officially have the worst style.

The average man here decorates their body with sweatpants and a hoodie. 

Sure, you don’t need to dress like you’re in a Gucci advert. 

But take some notes from our European brothers. 

Here what NOT to do: 

• Baggy clothes (you appear shorter)
• Dress overly conservative (leave a few buttons undone) 
• Dirty sneakers (self-explanatory)

Your threads influence your behavior. 

So it’s important to present yourself in the highest manner. 

If you’re serious about doing a total refresh:

1. Give away the graphic tees and outdated fashions 
2. Find a style icon that suits you for inspiration 
3. Get your sizing right 
4. Add in high-quality classics to your closet 

Now you’re ready to break necks. 

RULE # 4 | RELAXED 

Even in my younger days, I UNDERSTOOD the rules of attraction. 

But I was too fearful to put it in motion. 

I was an anxious mess around women. 

So how do you go from 8.0 on the Richter to James Bond cool? 

One principle: 

Abundance.

Sit with this. 

I highly recommend reading (and applying) “Dating Essentials for Men” by Dr. Glover for a full review. 

He basically turns dating into a RPG game. 

With the principle of abundance, the pressure and pedestal evaporates. 

Actionably, I practiced this 3 step approach until my nerves went limp: 

1 ) Icebreaker compliment / observation

“Hey, I like that patch on your jacket, where did you get it from?”

2 ) Cold reading + reflective listening

“So let me guess, you’re a rock climber.”

3 ) Departure 

“I’m meeting up with a friend, but let’s grab a drink this weekend” 

Ask for their phone number or the IG handle to keep it low pressure.

By the way…

Slight chance you’ll get “NO.”

But here, we just carry on with our day. 

Things are only important when you make them important. 

So have fun — potential is limitless.