The 5 Habits That Make You Attractive
So last weekend I’m listening to this podcast series called “How to Get Rich” by Naval Ravikant.
I first found this beauty of a beast back during the lockdown era, but I make it a point to revisit every year.
Sh*t is just too good.
Anyways, there’s this part where Naval says:
“Learn how to build. Learn how to sell. You’ll be set for life.”
He’s talking about business — but this is just as applicable to the science of attraction.
How?
When it comes to attracting dates (even if they belong on the cover of a magazine)…
There is no such thing as a supply side issue.
Just demand.
And the men who build themselves instead of search for quick fixes NEVER suffer from option poverty.
Do you think Bradley Pitt stresses about being ghosted?
No bro.
He’s built value.
They come to him — no reschedules asked.
If the only messages you’re waking up to are from Tinder bots…
It’s time to glow up sir.
Here are the 5 habits that make you attractive…
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# 1 | CLOSE YOUR EYES
So for most of my life…
I was your average hoodie wearing skinny fat pedestrian.
It wasn’t until my late 20s where I actually unf*cked myself and became a desirable man.
Here’s the problem —
When I was deemed unattractive…
The only way I could get validation was by being “nice.”
So even after I maxxed out my aesthetic…
I still acted like the friend zone guy.
You know the vibes —
Unanswered blue bubbles.
Doing sh*t you don’t care about.
No motion.
Yeah bro, I was down bad like Tailor Swift.
So how did I fix it?
Meditation.
And not just your regular “breath in and breath out” and see what happens type sh*t…
I’m talking visualization.
For 20 minutes a day, I would imagine myself behaving like a man with no fears and no attachment to outcome.
No BS…
This transformed my self image from plebeian to His Royal Majesty.
# 2 | NEW BODY
The hard work really starts here.
The difference in attraction is like going from Toyota Yaris to Urus.
Except you don’t need British rapper money…
Just discipline.
Despite what you might think, the actual process of building an aesthetic physique is not complicated.
It’s four things:
- Lift weights 3–4x/week
- Progressive overload
- Consume 0.9–1.0g of protein per lb
- Caloric surplus (bulking) or caloric deficit (cutting)
That’s it.
If you can do this for 6 months, life changes.
No more “you’ll find her eventually bro” sessions.
Build your body.
Leverage your time.
Win.
# 3 | ALEXANDRIA
You know what’s crazy?
There’s thousands of years of knowledge at the touch of our fingertips…
But most guys choose to d*ck around on TikTok.
Sad.
How can you expect extraordinary results with ordinary habits?
Nature won’t allow for it.
Choose knowledge + application.
If you want to be a desirable man…
Read about body language and men’s fashion.
Read the bible (“Dating Essentials For Men” by Dr. Glover).
Be inspired.
# 4 | CA$H TALK
You don’t need Seinfeld money to attract wifey.
But undeniably…
Money buys freedom.
Freedom to take preppy girls out to Cheesecake.
Or go on month long trips to Argentina.
This is attractive.
So get into the habit of asking yourself —
“How do we turn this up a notch?”
Naval calls this the process of “iteration.”
Use it to optimize your cash flow.
# 5 | THE BOX
“The most interesting people are walking contradictions. Jacked intellectuals. Casual billionaires. Spiritual warriors.” — Dan Koe.
Naval has a similar bar in his book — because it’s real AF.
You become infinitely more interesting (attractive) once you break out of the one-dimensional box.
So…
Get 5,000 hours good at two contradictory things.
I went the jacked intellectual route.
But there’s surfer billionaire, spiritual nightclub boss, fashionable tech bro…
We can go day and night.
My point is —
Be authentic.
Shock them.
Just when she thinks she has you all figured out…
Shutter Island it.
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