The 7 Habits That Unf*cked My Life
A few years ago I stared blankly down at a text message…
“I’m just not ready for anything serious right now.”
Or something along those lines.
I’ve mostly blocked out those agonizing memories now.
This was the woman I wanted to build my life with, and she thought of me as just another average guy.
A throw away.
But I couldn’t blame her...
I was a mid 20s nobody with a crippling addiction to instant gratification and hitting snooze.
She could find another with a right swipe.
So after that wake up call I made the decision to change my life.
I was either going to prevail in this personal war or die trying.
Here’s what happened…
HABIT # 1 | BECOME FIT
After I finished weeping to “Take Care” for a few hours…
I called my friend/mentor who recommended one thing:
“Dude. Get in the gym right now.”
This eventually became the single most important habit in transforming my life.
When I became fit…
I arrived to my destination on a private plane.
Instead of toiling through the fields of low interest…
You’re that guy.
And not only are they obsessed…
Your confidence ascends to new heights (thanks positive reinforcement).
So hit the gym.
Build the body of your dreams.
HABIT # 2 | THINK BIG
“It’s lonely at the top. 99% of people in the world are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things.” — Tim Ferriss
It’s easier to pick up one Sydney Sweeney at the rooftop lounge than five 8s.
Shift your perspective.
How?
Never settle for anything less than you can imagine.
Even if your goals are seen as slightly delusional…
March yourself right into them.
I spend 15 minutes every morning visualizing my ideal life.
It serves as a reminder of your potential and the key areas to focus your energy.
If you’re having trouble envisioning beyond the four walls…
- “4-Hour Workweek” by Tim Ferriss
- “Transurfing in 78 Days” by Vadim Zeland
- “Psychocybernetics” by Dr. Maltz
If someone has done it before…
You can too.
HABIT # 3 | ELIMINATE DIGITAL
The average man spends 35 hours a week staring at his phone.
Imagine if you replaced those hours with growth oriented work…
You’d be a KING among mortals.
Personally — my addiction to late night Reddit was zeroing my chakras.
So I created an evening routine.
Give yourself a list of options to choose from when the urge to scroll strikes.
Yoga, breath meditation, journaling, planning, salsa class…
The list goes on.
HABIT # 4 | ZONING
As soon I as earned enough capital…
I moved to the best city I could reasonably afford.
Why?
Your environment dictates your interactions.
This determines your mindset.
Your peers might be satisfied with their current situations…
But are you?
You’re more likely to stay consistent with the unf*cking process if everyone around you is on the same page.
So make the hard decision.
Push into the greater unknown.
HABIT # 5 | FIND FOCUS
Focus will save you from leading a toothless life.
Give up your power…
And you’ll receive a participation trophy in return.
Forget that.
Ask yourself the big questions…
What do you want to do with your life?
What type of woman do you want to attract?
Before you flick onto the next distraction…
Make your choices.
HABIT # 6 | GO SOCIAL
They’re no shortage of dating options.
But none of them are going to fall out of the sky.
Turn the TV off.
Go outside.
The ONLY way to become a master socializer is through repeated exposure.
So join an activity that meets regularly and allows for practice.
Language exchanges, run clubs, pickleball…
- Stand up straight
- Slow down
- Hold eye contact
You’re already in the top 20%.
HABIT # 7 | LEARN CONTINUOUS
I’d rather step on nine inch nails than get left behind again.
So I started to study everything personal growth, from 1930s how-to-guides to Naval tweet storms.
After you APPLY the knowledge…
Life changes dramatically.
The ceilings you were “supposed” to live under come crashing down.
Heartbreak texts are replaced by summer dates on the coast.
Keep showing up.
You’ll be okay.
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