The Death Of The Average Man (Don't Become One)
A few years ago, I took an impromptu solo trip to check out the MOMA in NYC.
The world was slowly opening back up, and I needed a city break from my romantic problems back home.
So with my proceeds from the Great American stimmy…
I booked a hotel room a few blocks from the museum.
Anyways, I’m finally there when this brown and blue piece catches my eye:
“Melancholy” by Edvard Munch.
And damn guys.
It hit me.
Filled with potential, but unfulfilled and alone.
Melancholy indeed.
Although it was a sad reality check, Mr. Munch inspired a push:
F*ck mediocre.
I know that sounds brutal, but where was the nobility in being average?
Nothing.
The only thing average attracted was the inside of my palm…
While the “bad guys” zoomed passed with wifey in the passenger.
Nah bro.
It’s time to terminate your old life.
Here’s how.
DEATH # 1 | SCAPEGOATS
If nothing changes for the next 10 years…
Are you content?
The truth is, nobody makes the changes.
It’s only you.
For years, I attempted to become the attractive man.
But after months of slow progress…
I would blame genetics and regress.
This continued until I hit my personal rock bottom:
Sleeping in my childhood bedroom at the ripe age of 25.
Now the failure was tangible —
And I was scared straight.
Whatever bottom looks like for you…
Remind yourself of it.
Know that constant improvement is what keeps you away.
DEATH # 2 | DISTRACTIONS
There’s value in dreaming big and envisioning your future.
It energizes you through the lengthy loading period.
But you know what ACTUALLY manifests your goals?
Focus.
Turn the TV off.
It’s time to mute the noise and just work.
How?
The 7PM rule.
Everyday, I abstain from distractions until this time.
No news, no social media, no YouTube…
My attention is dedicated to the habits that make me a better man.
And she notices.
DEATH # 3 | IGNORANCE
Not all habits are built the same.
The extraordinary man is usually:
- Fit
- Stylish
- High status
- Confident
When you’re not actively working towards these…
Spend your time LEARNING.
Read books, relevant articles, magazines…
This speedruns your progress.
It really only takes 12 months to be a top 2% man.
But it could take years without proper guidance.
Once you have the knowledge…
Act on it.
It’s an elevator up.
DEATH # 4 | ATTACHMENT
How did I become confident?
There’s two layers:
- Signaling (external confidence)
- Self-belief (internal confidence)
When women are drawn to your “confidence,” it’s because you’re…
- Holding the gaze
- Straight posture
- Relaxed and slow speech
You can master these in a few weekends.
Internal confidence requires changing your mental frame.
Let’s say I want to see if that cute barista is interested…
Here’s what I do:
- Detach myself from the outcome
- Perform the action
I don’t care if she laughs in my face…
I did my duty.
That’s it.
This is why 99% of men are stuck fighting for bots on dating apps —
They’re afraid of a “bad” outcome.
But raw action always wins in the end.
Harness it.
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