The Mindset That Will Change Everything
Back in college, there was this beautiful short-haired brunette in my class that I used to crush about.
Call it simping…
But every time “Exchange” by Bryson Tiller came on, I thought about her.
She was funny, smart, and equipped with the smile of an angel.
And she was feeling me too.
So what happened?
One day while walking to class together, she utters the two words I never wanted to hear:
“My boyfriend…”
Sh*t.
Yeah — I missed my chance boys.
I was so afraid of getting rejected that I never shot the ball.
And she had no reason to wait.
But here’s what I learned since:
I never wanted to be caught with my pants down ever again.
I missed out on a wife because I felt nervous?
Nah bro.
But I knew that I needed a long-term solution, not just 3AM motivation.
So what did I do?
I changed my mindset.
Here are the 3 shifts that blessed me with an attractive life…
SHIFT # 1 | NOW
I had my second (and final) wake up call at age 22.
Just like any Friday morning, I was running late to my 8AM biology class.
So to save about 4 minutes…
I decide to take the freeway.
Big mistake.
As I’m making my way downtown at 75MPH, the car in front of me suddenly emits a cloud of smoke and stops.
Luckily — I swerve to the left.
Otherwise I would have been cooked.
It’s like this:
As a young man, chances are you’re going to make it beyond 2075.
But if “Avengers: Doomsday” marks the end of your world…
Why leave with regrets?
SHIFT # 2 | REJECTION
Most attraction advice usually starts with “be confident.”
But confidence is too fickle.
Sometimes you feel like the sh*t.
Other times you feel like a sh*t.
Here’s my take:
The reason most men stay involuntarily single isn’t a skill issue…
They simply haven’t knocked on enough doors.
Why?
They are trying to avoid rejection at all costs.
And I don’t necessarily blame them.
Rejection is painful.
But you have to change that before you’re an old man filled with regret.
Here’s something I learned from “Rejection Proof” by Jia Jiang:
Rejection tolerance is a skill.
Practice it by turning rejection into a game, as this removes your attachment to outcome.
For example:
- Ask a busy person for the time
- Ask a stranger to rate your look
- Ask the receptionist out to Taco Bell
Drop the “persuasion” skills here.
Get rejected on purpose.
Techniques will never work without action.
SHIFT # 3 | ALTERNATIVE
Is it “weird” to intentionally make requests in hopes of rejection?
Yeah.
But guess what happens when you follow the crowd?
You get to sit in traffic for a job that you hate, and go home to a marriage that’s crumbling like some cookies.
We don’t want that boss.
Trade in your comfort for a life that genuinely turns you on:
Travel, growth, a rich dating life…
Work your ass off, and keep getting rejected until it’s reality.
No confidence needed.
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