The Quiet Art of Unspoken Attraction
So the other day I’m listening to “Dating Essentials for Men” by Dr. Robert Glover right?
This book is so GOATED that it holds the George Washington on my Mount Rushmore of male self-improvement.
Glazing aside…
Dr. Glover shares a confession about halfway in:
Attraction is 20% what you say.
80% behavior.
Essentially, men with ELITE body language are highly desirable to women.
The rest are treated as NPCs.
I decided to spend my Friday evening testing this out.
Here’s what I learned…
# 1 | AT THE GATES
Eyes are the bridge between stranger and soulmate.
They are the foundational pillar of all things attraction.
How?
Let’s say you’re seated at your favorite local cafe when suddenly…
An gorgeous brunette in her mid 20s sits at the table in front of you.
You’re dressed to impress.
At this point, you have one of two options:
A. Check her out and quickly avert your gaze in shame
B. Gently meet her eyes
It seems trivial…
But these few seconds finalize your fate:
- Looking away is deemed low status
- Holding the gaze is high status
Sadly, most guys make the low status move because they feel their mere presence disrupts a woman’s matrix.
But here’s the truth…
As long as you’re not gawking out —
You have nothing to be nervous about.
Women ALREADY know when you’re interested in them.
Their EQ is in-tune.
So come with the energy, and she’ll love you for it.
# 2 | ROSETTA
Once you’ve established at least two rounds of mutual eye f*cking —
Close the distance.
Do this by:
- Motioning her to come over OR
- Slowly approach her
Now, test for interest with a basic question or compliment.
I’m talking like 5 words or less.
Here’s what I said to that girl in the cafe:
“Hey, I like your tattoo.”
If she’s interested, she’ll handle the rest of the verbiage.
For me, this lead to a playful debate about the best Leonardo DiCaprio movie (it’s Inception).
But sometimes, it’s a one word response.
No stress.
The whole point is to see if she follows your lead.
Here are some other unspoken essentials:
- Open, straight posture
- Slight smile
- Head tilt
- Slow, calm movements
Signal confidence at all times.
# 3 | OIL UP
Not like that champ.
First, what’s ACTUALLY preventing you from doing this?
I’m guessing it’s this pesky sensation called anxiety, right?
So here’s how to overcome it —
Imagine you see Gal Gadot seated on a park bench, and your best friend commands you to make contact.
What do you do?
Well, most guys would sh*t themselves.
It's because unspoken attraction is a skill.
You can’t realistically go from 0 to 100 real quick.
Skills take practice.
So…
- Make eye contact with everyone
- Perfect your body language
- Learn how to read body language
Daily.
Train yourself until it’s effortless.
Then attraction comes on demand.
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