This Is Why You Can't Wait Until Later
So a few years ago, I met this girl while I was traveling through Europe.
She danced, spoke 3 languages, and played the violin.
We’d hang out every evening, and make fun of just about everything.
Things were perfect.
But time was running out, and I had to make a decision:
I could take a gamble and figure out the work visa situation.
Maybe leave the rat race and start a family on farmland?
Or I could accept the job offer sitting in my inbox…
Climb the ladder back in LA.
What did I do?
I swore to myself after initialing out the DocuSign…
“Just six months.”
But of course — months turn into years.
She happily marries another guy.
It’s a distant memory.
I learned a valuable lesson after this…
You can’t wait until later.
NOW # 1 | HEALTH
You want three things.
A ripped body, wealth, and abundant dating options.
Let’s start with the first one.
When I was a out of shape Del Taco platinum member…
Everything was an excuse —
“Lifting is pointless because of my genetics, schedule, energy…”
What I didn’t understand was this:
- Millions of men (regular guys) do it everyday
- A fit body is 80–90% of physical attraction
And the returns are unparalleled.
Why?
It literally transcends your dating prospects.
Once I became aesthetic — the invisibility cloak was lifted.
Gym girls, PhD students, travel lovers…
They were all suddenly interested.
You can do it.
Your excuses are valid, but hit the gym anyways.
Don’t put your aesthetic life on hold.
NOW # 2 | CASH FLOW
Despite my regrets…
I don’t hate on the 9–5 veterans.
A dollar is a dollar.
But if there is ANYTHING else you’d rather be doing —
Follow that.
Why spend the best years of your life suppressing your dreams?
I always wanted to travel the world and lift others through my experiences.
I just didn’t know how to make it financially viable.
Until I found this…
“You will get rich by giving society what it wants but does not yet know how to get, at scale.” — Naval Ravikant
This doesn’t require reinventing the wheel.
But the answer is unique for everyone.
NOW # 3 | DATING
There is no perfect time to ask her out.
She either has high or low interest, and the day of the week doesn’t change that.
If you’re having trouble internalizing this…
- Recognize that you’re an attractive man
- The yes/no response is just a reflection of HER situation
- Use an icebreaker
Icebreakers are compliments or observations.
Here are two that I used today:
“This foam art is glorious” to a barista.
“Are you using that 40?” at the gym.
Don’t memorize anything.
Simply blurt out whatever genuinely interests you.
Make eye contact.
Have fun.
NOW # 4 | SOLO TRAVEL
Solo traveling has developed my mindset more than any book.
You see places that re-imagine lifestyle.
Meet women that inspire growth.
Every man should do it at least once, and it’s a loss to wait until 65.
Budget for it starting now.
Your best moments come with serendipity.
NOW # 5 | PERFECT DAY
Here is an exercise that pushed me out of the life deferment path.
Imagine your ideal day…
- Where do you live?
- Who are you with?
- What are you doing?
- What do you look like?
This vision is ALL you need to optimize for.
Life is short.
Don’t wait until later to find out.
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