Why Desirable Men Always Expand Their Comfort Zones
Take a moment and examine your surroundings.
Everything — the women you date, the car you drive, and the body you have are all a result of your decisions until now.
What got you here doesn’t get you any further.
Are you satisfied?
A few months ago, I picked up Brian Tracy’s “No Excuses.”
My life was on autopilot at the time.
Things were steady but not where I wanted them to be.
And I found myself wondering:
“Is this it?”
I was doing all of the classic self-improvement.
Lifting, getting money, socializing…
But my DMs stayed on Sahara.
And growth was painfully slow.
So after carefully studying the principles from “No Excuses,” I discovered a truth about reality:
Desirable men don’t live in the comfort zone.
They venture out IMMEDIATELY.
They learn CONSTANTLY.
And they don’t give a sh*t about the “what ifs.”
This is what separates the Bradley Coopers from background extra #7.
Who do you want to be?
I had to reroute.
Feeling pretty geeked after finshing Mr. Tracy’s book…
I took off for a solo trip to Costa Rica.
My mind needed a reset.
I ended up staying at a small hostel in the town of La Fortuna.
My goal was to practice leaving the comfort zone, especially when it came to meeting women.
Initially, my brain was giving all sorts of excuses:
“She’s just being nice bro.”
Or…
“She’ll think you’re creepy.”
I put them on DND.
I knew that if I wanted to be desirable, I had to rethink the way I approached the game.
Long story short…
By the end of the week, I went on dates with:
- A gorgeous self-made entrepreneur
- A Portuguese surfer chick on her gap year
- A full-time tango instructor
The week before, I was rage swiping on Tinder.
Here’s the crazy part —
Nothing changed in that week.
I didn’t miraculously grow 6 inches downstairs.
I was the same dude.
I just expanded my definition of comfortable.
Simply put…
Safe doesn’t make you desirable.
It makes you friend zoned.
Be the marble.
When I got home, I didn’t want to fall back into old habits.
So I began to implement another one of Tracy’s gems.
He says something to the effect of:
To be in top 20% of men — EMULATE THEM.
And he’s exactly right.
All the answers to your problems are already found.
So why waste time trying to rediscover them?
You didn’t invent math in order to balance your checkbook right?
You just learned the specific skill.
In the same way, you can LEARN how to become a desirable man.
It starts by examining your five closest friends.
And I love all my dawgs.
But only one of them is aesthetic AF, dresses like a model, and goes on dates any night of the week.
So I asked him for the truth, and he reaffirmed my belief:
If you stick in your comfort zone…
You’re guaranteed comfort zone results.
Think about it:
There’s MILLIONS of ways to reach the same goal.
Why take the least effective route?
Because it’s easier?
Exit that trap.
Seek mentorship from those you aspire to become.
Exclusively spend your time with high caliber men.
That’s how you break the wall.
1% rule.
Comfort is subjective.
It’s self-determined.
So ALWAYS be expanding your definition of comfort.
As long as you’re pushing 1% more every day, the law of marginal gains will take over.
Your new life awaits, Casanova.
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