Why Fixing Your Life Feels Impossible (Until You Learn This)

When I signed the offer to my first six figure job…

I thought I had it made. 

Finally. 

I would be deemed an “attractive man.” 

6 months later…

I was miserable. 

Despite making more than my family combined…

My life was f*cked. 

Working 60+ hour weeks…

Good habits slipped.

And I became DoorDash’s top customer. 

Blubbering up my belly like a beluga whale. 

Worse…

The money came with untold consequences.

One Friday night, after a luxurious dinner for two…

My date confidently places a to-go order as I’m pulling out my Visa credit. 

F*ck.

Was life an unsolvable puzzle for the unfortunate few?  

No.

As I got older…

I understood what TRUE attraction meant. 

This is what I learned. 

LESSON # 1 | MONEY

Money is undeniably important. 

Without cash — you can’t afford to slip. 

Literally. 

But if that income comes at the cost of your personal growth…

It isn’t worth it. 

Money doesn’t make men. 

And even if you gain attention…

You can’t buy respect. 

Don’t allow yourself to be a walking ATM. 

It never ends well. 

LESSON # 2 | AESTHETIC MATTERS

I used to be the guy with a noodle arm pregnancy aesthetic. 

Needless to say…

Women rarely gave me the time of day (unless it was for a double order of bucatini).

Jokes aside, I don’t blame her. 

Why? 

Because no matter what everyone says…

99% of people judge you based on appearance. 

If you’re hot…

You get first class treatment bro. 

Otherwise it’s round trip in basic economy. 

Don’t stress. 

The transformation takes time, but it’s quicker than you think. 

Once I seriously started taking care of myself…

It was like a rebirth. 

Hitting the gym, eating clean, upgrading my closet, skincare, dentist, contacts…

It sounds like a lot — but most of them are one time efforts. 

Step in. 

LESSON # 3 | CALM 

There is a catch. 

Even when you become attractive…

It’s not like Cleopatra shows up at your doorstep. 

Yes, there’s more opportunity. 

But you still have to go outside and shoot the ball. 

For most men who weren’t birthed with Greek God features…

This might not come naturally. 

That’s okay. 

I also struggled with this for months, until I caught an epiphany while listening to Modern Wisdom x Alex Hormozi.

The magic of life happens when you start doing things for the sake of doing them rather than attaching yourself to outcome. 

Because “good” or “bad…”

It’s all temporary. 

Apply this to dating. 

Stop caring and see what happens. 

LESSON # 4 | LOCATION 

If you’re on a consistent grind but still finding yourself doing same sh*t year after year…

Change locations. 

Your environment MATTERS. 

Not just because you’ll feel re-inspired, but the types of women you meet differ. 

If your natural energy is beach vibes and hiking dates…

Live in California. 

If you’re in your rooftop bachelor arc…

Go to a metropolis like NYC or Chicago. 

There’s only so much in Ohio bro. 

Remember — use money as a tool. 

Don’t let it make you. 

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