Jan 28, 2025 3 min read

Why Nobody Cares About You (Until You Do This)

You know how famous people always say:

“Guys, it’s soo lonely at the top.”

Yeah….

That sh*t is BS.

You know what’s ACTUALLY lonely?

Going days without talking to anyone other than the barista at Dunkin.

Waking up to 0 matches on a plethora of dating apps.

Sleeping in a cold bed.

I could go on.

I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum bro.

It’s WAY easier being the confident attractive guy than a nobody.

No comparison.

“So why doesn’t anyone care?”

Here’s the thing:

80% always chase the top 20%.

So if you’re not in the club…

You’re just not going to get the attention.

Average doesn’t get celebrated, and life doesn’t come with participation trophies.

Trust me bro —

I wish it didn’t work like this.

It’s the reason why the young guys these days are spending their checks on OnlyFriends and Twitch streamers.

They’re lonely AF.

But nature is effective — not fair.

The only logical solution is to figure your sh*t out.

So here’s what I learned…

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# 1 | YOUR HEALTH

If you take a random sample of 100 dudes…

What are you going to find?

Bad posture, bad habits, and beer guts…

That’s the average, right?

Since average gets ignored — your goal is to do the exact opposite:

Wake up early
Get sunlight
Hit the gym
Cut the BS foods

When you have THE BODY…

She’ll break her neck just to catch a glimpse of you sir.

The female gaze has been drawn to a fit physique since the dawn of time:

James Dean, Brad Pitt, Michael B. Jordan…

Do it for yourself.

But know that every workout compounds the amount of attention you’ll receive in ~6 months.

# 2 | YOUR AESTHETIC

If I wanted to live on lonely street for rest of my life…

Here’s how I would dress:

She-hulk T-shirt
Stained baggy jeans
Dirty running shoes

No offense.

Obviously — everyone has their own style.

But if you want people to care about you…

Dress like it.

Women only invest in men who’ve invested in themselves.

Rightfully so.

Put the swag on public display.

If you have no idea where to start, here’s what I recommend:

Old money aesthetic.

Signals unspoken status AND universally attractive?

Check and check.

This right here inspires a lot of my personal style:

Essentially, dress like a Harvard lawyer vacationing in Tuscany.

Just don’t actually buy the $500 sweaters.

Hit up your local Zara or J. Crew and you’ll achieve the same effect.

By the way…

If you’re above the age of 25 — invest in a quality timepiece.

I wear a watch with a black leather strap alongside a tungsten carbide ring.

Copy me.

It’s compliments galore.

# 3 | YOUR STATUS

Here’s a question I got from one of my friends:

“Why is social media so important? She shouldn’t care I have followers or not.”

He’s right, but that’s not how it works.

Women don’t ACTUALLY care about your IG count.

She’s just using it as a tool to gauge your desirability.

The same thing happens when you go to the grocery store:

99% of people assume that a $100 bottle of wine is higher quality than a $10 bottle of wine.

It could be the same sh*t in a different bottle —

But even the best connoisseurs will swear that the more expensive one tastes better.

Status works the same way.

If you appear to be a well-loved man with social status…

You’re more attractive.

Play the game accordingly.