Jun 20, 2025 3 min read

Why You're Still Tragically Average (And How to Change It)

Three years ago I went on a late night drive.

My hands gripped the wheel so tight that my knuckles ached.

I was spiraling.

The silence of the night allowed my mind to roam without guardrails..

What the actual f*ck?

I blamed her for abandoning me.

For choosing a douchebag.

But with every mile I saw through my own BS…

It was me.

Even though I was filled with regret, I knew it was time to break the cycle.

This life of tragedy couldn’t go on.

Here’s what I had to do.

My naivety died after I opened my eyes.

The truth is…

Life is a constant competition for the best.

Relationships are no exception.

For most of us who weren’t innately blessed with certain qualities…

Struggle is guaranteed.

But you can reach the other side.

I used to be horribly average —

Depending on pure luck and the kindness of others to get by.

Unfortunately, the world doesn’t run on sympathy.

If you want an existence beyond closed doors…

Your answer is value.

# 1 | bury the old

A few weeks later, she posted herself with her new man.

More radiant than ever.

Now I was able to answer the question…

“Why not me?”

It was because I didn’t offer anything.

Gut hung miserably from stained jeans.

My mind addicted to running.

But eventually…

You wake up.

Setting your alarm clock for 5AM.

Training your body religiously.

No matter how badly your body aches — you get up anyways.

You realize that the temporary sacrifices of today are an easier pill to swallow than a lifetime of failure.

You weren’t meant for mediocrity.

# 2 | rise above

For a long time, I lost the ability to look up at the stars and dream.

It cost me the best years of my life.

But you can start over at any moment.

Your mindset is the lead indicator of future success.

There are people no smarter than you living a life of abundance right now.

Only because they were confident enough to trust themselves.

Too many men forget…

Don’t ever think you can’t do it.

Focus.

Cut the distractions.

Align your habits with intentions.

As you grow, a new mode reveals itself.

# 3 | the meaning of power

The most powerful person in any negotiation is the one doesn’t give a sh*t.

Average men are so concerned with loss that they miss the opportunities passing right in front of them.

They settle.

Wondering what could have been “if only…”

Never forget what you’ve done and the direction you’re going.

This is the only proof you need.

Even if you can’t currently see the abundance…

Know that it’s there for you.

Once you decide your value…

It’s yours to keep.

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