How to Become The Most Social Version of Yourself

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Consider this:

What’s stopping you from having a legendary social life? 

Two things. 

You AND your environment. 

Sadly, our world is designed to delete face-to-face contact. 

You can order a lifetime supply of toilet paper at the push of a button. 

No socialization needed. 

Is it really a surprise we’re in the loner era? 

A few generation ago, there was no internet to hide behind. 

And I have a feeling our ancestors were socially superior. 

Long story short…

It’s not entirely your fault that your social life blows. 

But it’s your responsibility to fix it. 

Here’s how to do it — 

# 1 | GROUPS GALORE  

The quickest way to break the cycle of monkhood is by joining groups.

Social groups. 

Silent mediation camps probably won’t be college 2.0, right? 

If the priority is socialization — be intentional. 

Here are some group activities that involve DIRECT communication: 

• Social dancing (salsa, bachata, etc) 
• Language exchanges 
• Professional circles

These are my favorites, but there’s a lot out there. 

It’s close to a guarantee that you’ll make friends at these groups, because socialization is required. 

Don’t overthink it — just show up. 

# 2 | BREAK ICE 

Joining groups makes socialization easy by reducing the amount of anxiety that you have to overcome. 

But the truth is — you can meet people anywhere. 

At Whole Foods, your local cafe, and even the gym. 

Though if you’re like most men…

You might find it difficult to start a convo with that beautiful vibe who caught your eye. 

What’s stopping you? 

Self-limiting beliefs. 

Dr. Glover talks about this in “Dating Essentials for Men.” 

Essentially…

SLBs are EXCUSES we use to avoid anxiety. 

“I don’t want to bother her.”

“I’ll get embarrassed.”

But think about it:

Why would it be “taboo” to start a conversation? 

After all — humans are social creatures with brains wired for attraction. 

It’s natural. 

You don’t need a Stinson playbook for this. 

But if you’re still having trouble breaking ice, this is what I do: 

1. Recognize SLBs 
2. Use a mantra like “I’ve done this already.”
3. Mentally press “GO.” 

Another tip…

Look at socialization as an experiment— the pressure cuts itself in half. 

No attachment to results.

Just testing. 

# 3 | SOCIAL PROOF 

You ever hear the saying, “it takes money to make money?” 

Well, it’s true. 

Your first connection in that new city you moved to is the toughest. 

Once you lock that down, exponential growth follows. 

Why? 

Social proof.

It’s like building followers on Medium.

 It signals “look guys I’m interesting.” 

In a nutshell…

Focus on groups and contact, and everything else is organic. 

If you want to fast track your aura, check this out: 

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